When someone is having cancer, they easily feel upset and vulnerable so it is of importance to know some dos and don’ts so that you can get along with them in a good way. There are some do and don’t that you should know when someone has cancer.

Do:

Take your cues from the person with cancer. Some people are very private while others will openly talk about their illness. Respect the person’s need to share or their need for privacy.

Let them know you care.

Respect their decisions about how their cancer will be treated, even if you disagree.

Include the person in usual plans and social events. Let them be the one to tell you if the commitment is too much to manage.

Listen without always feeling that you have to respond. Sometimes a caring listener is what the person needs the most.

Expect the person with cancer to have good days and bad days, emotionally and physically.

Keep your relationship as normal and balanced as possible. While greater patience and compassion are called for during times like these, your friend should continue to respect your feelings, as you respect their feelings.

Offer to help in concrete, specific ways.

Don’t:

Offer advice they don’t ask for, or be judgmental.

Feel you must put up with serious displays of temper or mood swings. You shouldn’t accept disruptive or abusive behavior just because someone is ill.

Take things too personally. It’s normal for the person with cancer to be quieter than usual, to need time alone, and to be angry at times.

Be afraid to talk about the illness.

Always feel you have to talk about cancer. The person with cancer may enjoy conversations that don’t involve the illness.

Be afraid to hug or touch your friend if that was a part of your friendship before the illness.

Be patronizing. (Try not to use a “How sick are you today?” tone when asking how the person is doing.)

Tell the person with cancer, “I can imagine how you must feel,” because you really can’t.

Expert from Modern Cancer Hospital Guangzhou reminds cancer patients should take related treatment as soon as possible. If you want to get a second opinion for cancer treatment, please contact us viaonline consultation, phone call (02-8-8221222).

*Surgery, in addition to the appropriate chemotherapy and radiotherapy, are effective in treating early cancer, but certain patients in late stage of cancer may not be tolerate surgery well as they can be relatively weak. A combination of carefully planned minimally invasive therapy, chemotherapy or radiotherapy can effectively reduce the side effects and discomfort of treatment and may help patient get better efficacy.